Thursday, October 3, 2013

oct 3

having a new baby  is no joke especially if one already have a big family. I rearranged my scheduled to fit our new life. Last year I was taken the girls to music three to four times a week this year it will be twice a week, I am trying my best not to over schedule, I don't want to burn out.I also don't want to neglect my house by not keeping a clean organize home. there was a time that we had an outside activity everyday between tennis,gymnastic ballet and lets not forget trips my home was a nasty mess .piles of clothes everywhere ,piles of dirty dishes in my sink ,dirty floors,dirty rooms. Even the girls fell behind in every subject. I must  admit it was fun rushing in and out , the experience was a good one to have. But do I want to go back to chaos? NO definitely a fat NO. I like balance,  I don't like rushing and I hate rush hour . it was  not easy to travel with that much kids in an overcrowded train with rude people .

My goal for this year is to establish a routine  , I want to teach my girls good habits, like make your bed when you wake up ,change your pajamas,  get ready for the day.
I want the girls to follow a schedule wake up at 6 am ,get ready for the day , eat breakfast, do your academic without complaining or whining.

homeschooling this much kids mean that your child will be teaching herself , which in my opinion is important. I give them a strong foundation on reading ,math  and writing  for they could eventually could pick up a textbook and teach themselves  . I wont spoon feeding every information. being  part of a big family means that you will become independent  and responsible for your own learning early than other kids.


My husband have a way with our babies, he will almost always make them smile and laugh. .. Today he made Asanti smile , I  rush to get my camera but after the camera was turn on she will not smile .... boohoo., but it was nice to capture daddy with her little girl. I will try to post the video tomorrow.

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

oct 2,2013

Raising six will now change to raising seven, yeah that's right ! My family is bigger and better.
lets welcome my baby girl Asanti.
On August 8,2013 I walk in the hospital  with labor pains I was convince that this was it ,but it wasn't the doctor send me back home because I was only 3 cm open and only 36 weeks. My husband when to work and I stood home with my other 6 kids and my mother that took a day off from work to help me. there I was with pain that will go and come, I was crying because the nurses from the hospital told me that it was early that it might be two more weeks before I actually give birth, those words hunt me , how can I stay two weeks with pain....how? . There were wrong,thanks God! . At home my labor pain became stronger, I walk back and forth, I squat with every contractions ,I belly dance through my pain ,I breathe deep in filling my belly like if it was a balloon. there was time that couldn't keep control and I will lose myself in the pain and panic ,but God must be there for me because somehow I put myself together. This was the first time that I labor by myself , my husband always been there for me, I was angry that he when to work and left me with pains ,but I understand that it was a must since days before he took a day off  because I was feeling contraction,but that led to nothing . This was the first time that I was active in my labor not just laying in a hospital bed waiting for the cervix to reach 10 cm.
When I couldn't stand the pain any longer I call hubby to come home  I let him know that this was the real deal. By the time he came I was crying ,sweating ,trembling and scared. My daughter and mom help me go down to the street to meet him since I could hardly walk ,there he  was my hero , he was waiting outside with a taxi to rush me to the hospital.
The ride was the most exciting ,crazy experience of my life, I was screaming because the pain was unbearable , I though that the baby was going to pop out right there inside the taxi, the taxi driver was scared he eventually pass all the red light to rush me to the hospital . Finally we arrive at the hospital ,a man that heard me scream and heard the taxi driver scream "emergency" came to help me with a wheelchair my husband pull me out of the taxi rush me inside the hospital to the labor  floor ,nurses and doctor approach me with stupid question ,Okay they wasn't stupid questions, but I  really  didn't even had the energy to talk . Nurses rush me to the labor room pulling my pants off and shirt, lay me on bed , the doctor  put on his gloves and check me , and this are the words that bring me back  ,"she is 10cm" Hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah! to me that meant the end all I needed to do was push, which I did 3 push and the Baby was born at 6:30 pm .This experience was the most empowerful experience I ever had . I labor by myself ,I was strong ,I was in control, been active  in labor  was the best.
Thank you God ,my husband and my beautiful daughter carmen who was sitting next to me in the taxi hearing me scream and holding my hands. sorry you couldn't come in to see your sister been born ,next time.